Relational Theory and Regulation

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Across
  1. 3. A state where the body struggles to turn off its stress response, keeping an individual stuck in “survival mode.”
  2. 5. The process where the safety and stability of a caregiver’s nervous system directly affects the safety of a child’s nervous system.
  3. 8. Approaching a conflict with curiosity and a lack of preconceived notions about who is at fault.
  4. 13. The role a parent shifts into when they allow a child to “own” their problem rather than trying to solve it for them.
  5. 15. A culturally held belief that women are uniquely and innately wired to want and care for children, when scholars describe as a myth.
  6. 17. A “hovering” style of parenting where doing too much for a child can lead them to be more anxious, vulnerable, and self-conscious.
  7. 19. The body’s preferred state of internal balance where an individual feels safe and can navigate the world calmly.
  8. 21. Harmful relational habits that are passed down when parents simply repeat the same lines used on them as children.
  9. 22. The process by which girls are taught from a young age through toys and cultural messages that their primary aspiration should be motherhood.
  10. 24. A relational space that exists beyond the traditional monogamy and non-monogamy binary.
  11. 25. A plural relational mode mentioned by Ferrer that blends different elements of monogamy and non-monogamy.
  12. 26. The theorist associated with “cultural capital,”whose work is used to explain class differences in contemporary marriage trends.
  13. 28. The concept of determining who is actually affected by a conflict to decide if a parent should intervene or act as a helper.
  14. 30. A state of constant monitoring and micromanaging others, often resulting from a “fawn” stress response to childhood unpredictability.
Down
  1. 1. The social hierarchy that deems adoption “secondary” or “second best” compared to assisted reproductive technologies.
  2. 2. A term for marriage when it is viewed as a symbolic achievement that marks the transition to successful adulthood.
  3. 4. An ideology that posits a woman’s primary value comes from her ability to bear and rear children.
  4. 6. A style of parenting where a person responds to their child based on their own overstimulation or stress rather than the child’s needs
  5. 7. The ideological foundation that prioritizes biological reproduction over other forms of family-making.
  6. 9. The weakening of social norms that define behavior within a social institution like marriage.
  7. 10. A group living structure in Haiti where children are reared communally by a wide circle of relatives and neighbors, contradicting the “innate” biological mother-child bond.
  8. 11. The stress response state initiated by the nervous system when perceiving a threat, such as intrusive or controlling parental actions.
  9. 12. The security and stability lacking in homes where boundaries are constantly violated, leading a child’s nervous system to remain consistently stressed.
  10. 14. A plural relational mode that involves moving across different styles of intimacy without being fixed to one label.
  11. 16. The natural way of being that can be suppressed when a child is consistently micromanaged or controlled.
  12. 18. A cycle of repeating, often unhealthy, behavioral patterns in adulthood that mirror early childhood relationships.
  13. 20. A mindful choice of words and actions that helps de-escalate a crisis and allows a child to manage their own emotions.
  14. 23. The movement of individuals who voluntarily choose not to have children, often challenging traditional social structures.
  15. 27. The physical pathways in the brain that are shaped by earliest relationships and dictate future thoughts and actions.
  16. 29. The shift in society where infertility resolutions moved from “natural” solutions like adoption to primarily medical treatments.